Every day I anxiously wait for you to gel to class. I and say good morning. Some days, when you arrive only can 8217;t wait for us to smile at each other incredibly and listen impatient. Instead of reading the Daily Calendar, seconds before the lecture begins, I 8217;m I anticipate your footsteps from behind for your voice. Today is one of your late days. But I don 8217;t mind, because after a month of desperately desiring to ask you out, today I am going to一Encourage me, because letting you know like you seems as risky to me as skydiving into the sea.
我每天都急切地等着你来上课我迫不及待地想与你相视一笑，互道一声早上好有些天你在上课前最后儿秒才进教室，我着实心烦意乱_我表面在看当天的课程表，内心却盼;望着从后面传来的脚步声，盼望听到你的说话声。今大你又晚到，可是，我并不介意，因为在经受一个月渴望和你约会的煎熬之后，今天就要付诸行动了，鼓励我吧，为让你知道我喜欢你我需要豁出去，就像高空跳伞到大海里面一样.
I know that dating has changed dramatically in the past few years, and for many women asking men out isn 8217;t at all daring. But 1 was raised in a traditional European household’where simply the thought of my asking you out spells-naughty. Growing up, I learned that men call, ask and pay for the date. During my 3 years at Berkeley, I have learned othcnvise. Many Berkeley women have brightened their social lives by taking the initiative、with men. My girlfriends insist it 8217;s essential for women to participate snore in the dating process. 8220;I can 8217;t sit around and wait any more， 8221;my former roommate once blurted out.‘Hard as it is, I have to ask guys oW if I want to date at all! 8221;
我知道最近几年，男女约会已经与以前大不样〕对许多女士而言，邀请男人出去根本算不上什么大胆的举动了。可我在一个传统的欧洲家庭长大，在那样的家教下，就连脑海中闪过约你出去的念头都觉得不妥，从小我知道的都是男士打电话约女士，男士掏腰包但在伯克利的3年当中，我看到的却完全不同〔二许多伯克利女士为了交际更广一此，往往与男士交往时采取主动我的女性朋友们坚持，女士在约会中更积极主动是非常必要的“我再不能坐在这里干等了，”我曾经的室友有次大喊道。“尽管很难，但是我必须主动约男孩了—如果我还想约会的话!”
Wonderful, more women are inviting men out, and men say they are delighted, often relieved, that dating no longer solely depends on their willingness and courage to take the first step. Then why am I digging my nails into my hand trying to muster up courage 8217;?
太妙了。如今越来越多的女士约男士们出去，男士们说他们很高兴，如释重负，约会不再完全依靠他们去决定、去鼓起勇气迈出第一步r那么，我又何必用手指掐着手掌，半天鼓不起勇气呢.
I keep telling myself to relax since dating is less stereotypical and more casual today. A college date means anything from studying together to sex. Most of my peers prefer casual dating anyway because it`s cheaper and more comfortable. Students have fewer anxiety attacks when they ask somebody to play tennis than when they plan a formal dinner date. They enjoy last minute let 8217;s make dinner together“dates because they not only avoid hassling with attire and transportation but also dun 8217;t have time to agonize.
我一直提醒自己放松点，因为如今约会远不是老一套了，非常随意。大学生约会干什-么的都有，一起学习，甚至会上床。同龄人中的大多数更喜欢随意的约会，因为这样的花费更少，而且更加轻松自在。学生邀请某人出去打网球自然比邀人共进正式的晚餐更不容易紧张。他们喜欢约会到最后说:“我们一起去吃晚饭吧”，因为这样既无需为着装和交通发愁，而且也没时间去烦恼。
Casual dating also encourages people to form healthy friendship prior to starting relationships My roommate and he;r boyfriend were friends for four months before their chemistries clicked,they went to movies and meals and often rot together with mutual friends, they alternated paying the dinner check. 8221;He was like a girlfriend 8220;my roommate once laughed-blushing 8221;. Mcn and women relax and get to know each other more easily through such friendships. Another friend of mine believes that casual dating is improving people 8217;s social lives. When she wants to Iw a guy know she is interested. she will say, 8220;Hey, let 8217;s go pct a yoghurt 8221;
随意的约会还促进人们在恋爱之前培养健康的友谊我的室友和她男朋友在共浴爱河之前，已经是相处4个月的朋友了，他们一起看电影、吃饭，还常常与彼此的朋友们聚会，他们吃饭轮流买单。“他像个女性朋友，”我的室友曾经羞涩地笑着说。通过这种友谊，男人和女人都很放松，这样更容易深人了解对方我的另一个朋友相信，随意的约会!在改善人们的社交生活。当她想让一个小伙子知道她对他感兴趣时，她会说:“嗨，我们去吃块酸奶酪吧。”
Who payfor it? My past tlatrs have taught me some things. You don 8217;t know if I 8217;ll get the wrong idea if you treat me for dinner,and I don 8217;t know if paying for myself. John whipped out his wallet on our first flute betore I could suggest we go Dutch.
谁来买单呢?过去的约会经验让我懂得了一些东西。如果你请我吃饭，你知道我是否误解你的意思:如果我坚持为自己的那份付钱，我不知道是否会惹你不快或者冒犯你。我和约翰第一次约会时，我还来不及提议AA制，约翰就突然掏出了钱包。
During our full dinner stroll he told me he wa; interested in dating me on steady basis. After I explained I was more interested in a friendship. he told me he would have understood have I paid for my dinner. 8220;I have practically ;topped treating women on dates. 8221;He said defensively. 8220;It is safer and more comtbrtable when we each pay for ourselves. 8221; John has assumed that because I graciously accepted his treat, I was in love. He was mad at Himself for treating me,and I regretted allowing him to.
饭后散步时，他告诉我，他有意与我定期约会。我向他解释说我更愿意和他做朋友，他告诉我，要是我是自己付的钱，他就能理解我的意思。“现在约会的时候我几乎不请女人吃饭了，”他辩解道“各付各的账，更安全，心里更舒服”约翰以为，我毫不客气地接受他的请客，说明我爱上他了他因为请我吃饭而埋怨自己，而我也后悔当初没有阻止他。
Larry. on the other hand. blushed when I otfercd to pay fur my meal on our first date. I unzipped my purse and Hung out my wallet, and he looked at me as if I had addressed him in a foreign language. Hesitant. I asked politely, 8220;How much do I owe you 8221; 8221; Larry muttered, 8220;uh, uh, you really don 8221;t owe me anything, but if you insist 8230; 8221;
拉里却不同，和他第一次约会，当我提出为自己的那份付钱时，拉里的脸红f我拉开手提包，匆忙拿出钱包时，他看着我，就像我用外语和他说了什么似的。我迟疑一会儿，客气地问道“我该付你多少钱?”拉里说“嗯，嗯，你其实不用付我，可是，如果你坚持……”
Insist. I thought. I only offered. To Larry, my gesture was a suggestion of rejection.
我还是坚持给了他钱对拉里来说，我的举动是拒绝他的暗示。
Sliding into his desk, he taps my shoulde and says 8220;Hi, Laura, what 8217;s up 8217;? 8221;
他悄悄溜进座位，轻轻拍拍我的肩膀问道:“你好劳拉，怎么了?”
8220;Good morning”I answered with nervous chills Hey, how would you like to have lunch after class on Friday 8221;
“早上好，”我答道，紧张地回过神来，“晦，星期五放学后一起吃午餐好吗?”
8220;You meant attcr the tnidtenn 8217;? 8221; he says encouragingly I 8217;d love to go to lunch with you.
“你的意思是期中考试以后?”他的口气令人鼓舞“十分乐意和你共进午餐”
8220;We have a date 8221;I smile.
“那我们说定了，”我微笑道。
（实习编辑：高奕飞）